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Permalink Reply by Benjamin Tshudy on May 7, 2009 at 12:28pm

I have asperger's myself and I have always have kept to myself and been oblivious much of the time to what exactly is going on around me. I may know what in general is going on but I usually didn't care what the details were of stuff that didn't interest me much and so I just ignored it. Also, I wouldn't have made that connection that I could get in trouble for what others are doing if I am near them while they are doing it. I have gotten in trouble being in similar situations where I was minding my own business doing nothing wrong while others around me were doing something they weren't supposed to be doing and then I ended up getting in trouble just because I was around them. That is really confusing to me.

Also, as a person with aspergers I would consider anyone a friend that would accept me, no matter who they were just because I wanted to have friends. This has gotten me in bad situations too. For example,when I was in 10th grade, I was trying to be a friend with on boy a grade higher than me. He asked me if I wanted to go to a party with him. I was glad that he asked and I agreed to go. What i didn't know was what a "Party" really was. I was naive and thought that people would be there just having fun playing games and stuff. Really what it was included drinking and getting drunk. Once I got to the party I panicked and made someone to take me home. Because of my naivety I could have gotten it very much trouble.

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Permalink Reply by Jada on May 7, 2009 at 9:59pm

Hi Stacie,

I know with my son Rhett who is 11...he always wants things to be done the "right" way. So, he is more interactive than oblivious :) If someone is out of line, if someone is anwering a question in correctly, he is so quick to make corrections and point out mistakes. we are challenged with him in that we are always encouraging him to become less critical and be more observant. takin' it one day at a time....jada (mom) and rhett

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Permalink Reply by Shayna on May 11, 2009 at 10:48am

Funnily enough, I was the kid in that situation a few years ago and the same exact thing happened to me, although I was the girl sitting at a table full of boys who were drawing female parts. My Principal hated my guts anyway, so he was just looking for something to pin onto me. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do about your son's record unless you want to take it to the school board. And yes, aspies are almost totally helpless to be oblivious. (Was that a double negative?) Just impress upon your kid that if the activity borders on the illegal, that his so-called 'friends' will diss him at the first sign of trouble.

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Permalink Reply by Anne on May 25, 2009 at 6:53pm

Hi Stacie, Things like this happened quite frequently to us last year (my son was in a new school in 4th gr). Unfortunately the staff wasn't very sympathetic either and in tune with his personality. Which led him to get in trouble a lot. My poor kid could say that there was something wrong, but could not communicate on what was wrong, who did it, and all the events, which led to disbelief by teachers. Sometimes it takes days to figure out what happened in certain situations, one has to be a really good detective to piece it together!! So, I feel for ya! I know my son is so desperate to have friends, but the friendships never work out. He gets teased, picked on, and the butt of jokes. Its so heartbreaking to me! I cry as often as he does. This year my son has an awsome teacher that sticks right by him, and knows him 100 percent. She often gives him the benefit of the doubt in situations like yours.

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